Becca - “so what do we want to do for Christmas this year”
Adam - “I don’t know, what do you want to do”
Becca - “let not do presents and we will just do our normal stockings with a $20 limit”
Adam - “ok”
You can replace the word “Christmas” with any of the above present giving opportunities and this is usually how it goes…..in our conversation….. Then I usually never follow whatever rule we set up and find a way to stash some extra money from a side job or bonus that we were not expecting, and then go and buy Becca a big gift of some sort.
1st anniversary – I bought us bikes
mother’s day – got Becca a pedicure(at a salon) and some lotions she really likes
last Christmas – Bought her some diamond earrings
5 year anniversary – replaced the watch she lost but really liked and I upgraded it a little
And I am sure I have done some other fun gifts along the way. This is not to show off, just an account of what goes on in the Willis house. And I fully know that when I surprise her with the gift, this will be her response
a) She is going to be mad at me because I went against the rules we set up,
b) But then she will really like the gift I got her, but is sad because she did not get me anything
I on the other hand, really don’t care that I did not get anything because I fully expected her to follow the rules that we originally decided on, and I am never disappointed that she was not sneaky like me. I just like surprising her and her reaction is gift enough for me.
But on to why I am posting this….

Merry Christmas everyone and God Bless